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Handcuffs are the Spanish Ball and Chain

TIL this about handcuffs.

This week, I surprised a customer by embroidering a tiny pair of handcuffs in the pocket of the bridal jumpsuit I’m making for her. There was a precedent to this; it was a bit of an in-joke following several inappropriate giggles during fittings with her and her fiancée. Also, I stitched it so it was easy to remove if I really had misread the room.

Wives, in Spanish.

Fortunately, not only did she like it, it was even more appropriate than I’d imaged. The bride is a native Spanish speaker and told me that the word for handcuffs in Spanish – esposas – also means wives.

This naturally tickled my etymological tastebuds and it turns out both words stem from the Latin spondere, meaning to bind, so it’s not hard to see how each word evolved.

Not too dissimilar from the (usually sexist) English expression ‘ball and chain’.

But let’s not forget that husband shares its Old English roots with bondage.

However you want to keep the magic alive.

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Old wives’ tales

Winter’s Wedding Words: wife

I’m disappointed.

Not in an epically understated way, like my gracious German cousins last week ⚽️🎉.

More like when I go out for Chinese food and the main course never seems to live up to splendiferous platter of prawn toasts, satay chicken sticks, spring rolls and duck pancakes we had for the starter.

I blame husband. Not my husband, nor anyone else’s, but the word ‘husband’ itself. Specifically, its etymology. Because after I learned that it shares its origin with 007 and bondage for my last blog post, I had high hopes for its feminine counterpart.

Disappointment (1882), by Julius Leblanc Stewart. I don’t know what he did either.

Alas, ‘wife’ began its recorded life as Old English wif, meaning… wife.

However, ‘wif’ could also mean woman, irrespective of marital status. So I researched ‘woman’. And here I found my nugget of geek gold.

An anomalous quirk of English language evolution is that the word ‘wife’, i.e. a woman as a man’s possession (the predominant mentality of the time), predates ‘woman’ as a female person generally.

Disappointed AND retroactively outraged.

So I embroidered the shit out of a veil and felt much better.